RAFT - Reconciliation, Amends, Forgiveness, Trust
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We are dedicated to helping couples learn essential skills to enable them to communicate and work towards forgiving the hurts. We invite married couples who are seeking to rekindle intimacy and find the forgiveness and love that's possible with Jesus. The weekend format is designed to facilitate progress towards greater communication with intentional use of amends.
If ReEngage is "physical therapy", we are the "emergency room." RAFT can stabilize and help stop the bleeding of current wounds so that physical therapy can begin and be effective. We are perfect for couples who are ready to give up, and who are ready to break free of the repetitive arguments. At the same time, we are a great next step for ReEngage couples to explore the deep hurts that remain unresolved in the marriage.
The program features a weekend retreat in Junction TX 9/6/25-9/8/25. There will be five preparatory meetings. We will meet in KidCity Elementary Room 6, City Church Bandera Road campus - 9431 Bandera Road, San Antonio, TX 78250.
Schedule
Preparatory meetings are:
7/31/25 (Communication): 6:45 PM
8/7/25 (Conflict): 7:00 PM
8/14/25 (Forgiveness) 7:00 PM
8/21/25 (Amends): 7:00 PM
8/28/25 (Retreat prep): 7:00 PM
Week 1: Communication – Communication is the foundation of resolution of hurt. We learn the goal of communication and how our past has shaped how we are reacting to, instead of responding to, our partner.
Week 2: Conflict – Conflict is core to most marriages in crisis. We use what we have learned about communication and build on it to see conflict for what it is and see each other as partners instead of the problem. We seek to build a team mentality in the partnership to allow for conflict to unite, and not divide.
Week 3: Forgiveness – We learn what forgiveness is and what it isn't. We discuss what keeps us from forgiving and how unforgiveness is the ultimate obstacle to a reconciled marriage.
Week 4: Amends – Amends is an outward expression of humility and acceptance of responsibility for a wrong. It is an act of contrition separate from forgiveness because forgiveness doesn’t depend on making amends.
Week 5: Retreat Prep – we work on creating an "Impact Statement" to be discussed at the retreat. We learn how to write the impact statement and the benefits of the impact statement on the path of forgiveness towards trust and reconciliation.
At retreat, participant couples are grouped with a facilitator couple to walk through the Impact statement and learn how to respond to the impact statement. Each partner is given an opportunity to speak and respond using a specific format. The context creates a safe place to be heard and to be healed.
We are not meant for couples dealing with active domestic violence. This is not individualized therapy and should not replace therapy.
A suggested donation of $200 per couple will cover logistics, materials, and donation to retreat site.
